“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
-Jesus was coming from Galilee to Judea where He had talked about the forgiveness formula, that forgiveness should not be seven times but seventy times seven. The disciples then enquired about divorce but Jesus taught about marriage intimating that there is no excuse for divorce. Though the question occurred that; Moses allowed divorce; because of the people’s hardness of heart, & probably also instituting laws in marriage & divorce. Jesus talks about sexual immorality which attempts to disjoint the marriage union from one flesh. Thus forgiveness as a symbol of love should be highly upheld in any marriage; for it is designed for unity & not division, & God in His sovereignty has made marriage permanent from the beginning. Further, what God has joined together no one should separate & through His mercy, He is able to make every crooked paths straight.
-Wife in Hebrew is written as ishshah & it means helper, helpmate or companion & can be described as a married woman considered in a relation with her spouse. Ishashah comes from the word ish which means man in Hebrew; intimating that a woman was originally created from a man’s rib.
-In the beginning God created everything & saw that it was good. Then God said “it is not good for a man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him” (Gen 2:18). Eve was then created from the Adams rib; close to his heart for him to offer her love, care, protection & for her to offer companionship to him in family unity. Then God made a decree that man shall leave his father & mother & unite with his wife, & they become one flesh (Gen 2:24 ). In Ephesians 5:31-33 this scripture has been duplicated & additionally stipulates that this is a great mystery about Christ & the church, & that each man must love his wife as himself, & each wife respect her husband. A man therefore cleaves to his wife in a permanent relationship for they become one flesh in Christ just like Christ & the church. Jesus tells us in Mat 19:6, that what God has put together let not man put ascender, in the notion that a man & his wife become one flesh in a permanent union cemented by Christ, separable by physical death & at the same time reunited eternal in the marriage between Christ & the church. Marriages are therefore living illustrations of Gods’ goodness in building up beautiful relationships worth giving honor to Him. Just like Christ loved the church so a husband should love her wife & a wife respect her husband in fulfillment of Gods’ word & avoid conflict. In doing this we become witnesses of Christ in our lives, marriages, families & to others; so that they may also honor God in their different capacities. Isaac just like his father Abraham took his position in prayer & prayed for his wife, & the Lord heard him. Probably Rebekah had lost hope & given up praying for a child in her barren state but the Lord was merciful unto them & blessed them with children (Gen 25:21). Childlessness is a common challenge in marriages & this scripture gives all couples hope, that through faith in God, fruitfulness ensues. Barrenness may also be symbolic to lack of productivity in marriage. These may include :- lack of spiritual growth, poor communication in the family, unwillingness to forgive, financial crisis, disagreements in career & work, lack of support, disrespect, emotional infidelity, lack of love & intimacy etc. One of the main goals of a marriage is for couples to become fruitful & not just to look fruitful. We know that through prayer all things are possible & the Lord will over-turn any unfavorable situation in our marriages & families for He is faithful. Men are also encouraged to take their position in leadership & pray for their spouses & families, & our God of grace will most definitely answer us. Prayer should also be prioritized by the unmarried for only God can give a good spouse for in Proverbs 19:14 it is written, “Houses & wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” A prudent wife normally has an intelligent knowledge of reason, noble in character thus her husband safely trusts her & lacks no gain. She does not walk in the dark but in light knowing who God created her to be as a wife & mother, & does her role with dignity & diligence. She also comes to her marriage instructed by the Holy Spirit, God’s Word & other people like godly elder women who are walking in truth. She trains her mouth & guards her tongue in speech which only edifies the other & remain silent when it’s the best option, knowing that her words may either build up or tear down her marriage, family & relationships. Most of all she takes heed to love God & her husband, & walks according to Gods’ word & often careful not to wrong those around her.
Apostle Paul notes that sexual immorality was prevalent in Corinth as it is today in our various societies & advices both the wife & husband to only have sexual relations with their own fulfilling their marital duties & remain as one flesh (1 Cor 7:2-3). It is proper therefore for married couples to only have intimate relations with their spouses & the unmarried to marry lest they continue to burn with passions (1 Cor 7:9). Deprivation of ones conjugal rights has been cautioned against in marriage which might occur as a punitive measure to the other partner & end up to be disastrous but should not be an excuse for the deprived to sin. Hebrews 13:4 also tells us that marriage should be honored by all & the marriage bed kept pure for God will judge the adulterer & all the sexually immoral. Our God of mercy is gracious to us in all situations & can overturn any unfavorable circumstance. He helps us in every weakness, forgives us our sins & delivers us from all evil; so that we may remain guided by His word. God also advises us that with love for Him & one another; we remain in Him & Him in us, & calls us to forgiveness regardless of how bad the situation might be; just like He forgives us all the time.
You have been gracious & kind to us Lord we thank You for this far. You are full of mercy & love Father, have mercy on all the married to remain united in love, separated to be filled with grace, the unmarried to find good spouses, celibate to continue in good works & widows to be joyful in Your strength. Father; fulfill all the desires of our hearts & make every crooked paths straight according to Your grace. Help us to grow in Your wisdom & knowledge Father so that we may always have the heart to forgive without seeking forgiveness from others; merciful Lord & Savior Jesus Christ. Bind our families together Lord with bonds that cannot be broken. To You Lord be the glory now & forever. Amen
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